Question: How is a spiritual gift developed?
Answer: Paul tells Timothy to “fan into flame the gift of God,” which suggests that there is a part we have to play in the development of the gifts or manifestations of the Spirit within us. This may seem contradictory in some ways, because if it is the manifestation of the Spirit, it should be complete. But we know from how He works spiritual growth in us that it is advantageous to us to play a role in developing our lives. One of the best ways to develop our gifts is to learn from those who have the same gifts and more experience than we do. Another avenue of development is practicing our gifts and letting God show us how to improve. And finally, practicing all the other essentials of discipleship will actually help us develop in this area as well.
- Discovering Spiritual Gifts (askthepastors.wordpress.com)